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Black on Black: Affordable Plus-Sized Clothing for the Darkly Inclined

I know that finding nice, beautiful clothes is a pain in the ass when you can’t wear less than a size 12.  That is ten times harder when you don’t like light-colored clothes with disgusting shapes or prints, created to hide the aberration that plus-sized people is for societal standards.  When I gained weight, it was hard at first but I accepted it and moved on.  I still wanted to be myself, proud and all.  That included dressing like I always did because the only thing that changed was a number.  My new size did not redefined what I was, and I still wanted to dress my way: sometimes fancy, sometimes grungy, sometimes very feminine, but always darkly inclined.

Inspired by my eternal interest in the dark side of everything, and by Haute Macabre’s The Haute List, I decided to create a list of clothing for the darkly inclined plus-sized lady.  More than it being a reference list for myself, it is a way to share with other plus size and darkly-inclined creatures that there are affordable options for us.  I tried to make this a varied collection but, honestly, it could be seen as an example of my closet.  I do love all these pieces. Continue reading

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Postcards and Stamps from the Other Side

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Snail mail makes me happy.  Since I was a child, receiving correspondence was the highlight of my day.  I love receiving packages, letters—even if they’re ads—, and postcards.  I love postcards, especially carefully written and decorated postcards with beautiful images and stamps.  When I learned about Postcrossing, I knew I had to give it a try.

I’ve been on Postcrossing for six years, even though I deactivated my account for most of that time.  Postcrossing is a website where you can exchange postcards with random people.  Recently I activated it again, and I’m loving it.  The trick is to take it easy, and send the postcards gradually, not immediately.  That way you don’t waste so much money on stamps and postcards.  I learnt this the hard way.  In the end you will receive the number of postcards you’ve send that are registered by the recipient.  To this day, my postcards have traveled 378,678 miles.  Isn’t that exciting?! Continue reading

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Halloween in July

The last couple of weeks I’ve been having a hard case of homesickness.  But not from my actual home.  Instead, I miss a place of autumn, coldness, gloominess, and the real feeling of Halloween.  This feeling has been exacerbated by Tumblr and all the perfect pictures of a season I haven’t yet experienced at its fullness.

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Descarga, versión feminismo

Esta semana ha sido una (más) de titulares bochornosos en uno de los periódicos locales de este país en donde vivo—por desgracia.  En dos días, las publicaciones cibernéticas recorrieron el cuerpo de la mujer tal cual pieza inmobiliaria de Ikea.  La primera que me causó una reacción de ácido en los ojos se enfoca en la cara: Tres jóvenes boricuas entre las 50 caras más lindas del Congreso; la segundo en el cuerpo: Famosas que se han quedado desnudas en público; y la tercera en esa área “misteriosa” que no se menciona: Quiero una mujer que no esté usada.  En estos momentos de mi vida, prefiero pasar la mirada por los titulares sin leer la noticia.  Mi estabilidad—mental y emocional—es más importante que la opinión genérica de una sociedad superficial y patriarcal como ésta.

Aun mirando sólo los titulares y las fotos que los acompañan en las redes sociales, me pregunto cuánto tiempo más falta para que ocurra un cambio, aunque sea mínimo, en el modo de pensar de la gente; o cuándo se va a dejar de perpetuar la importancia de lo físico, el estándar de belleza, frente a la inteligencia y a lo que uno es capaz de hacer como individuo; o cuándo—aun entre personas brillantes—se va a mirar al sexo femenino y al feminismo como algo positivo y no como el cuco, el monstruo, el otro, lo débil, lo incapaz.

Llegar a este estado en esta reflexión me incomoda porque he notado cómo el feminismo se ha expandido pero todavía existen restricciones—sociales y autoimpuestas.  Continue reading

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